Avoid Negative Self- Talk

Cordell Davenport

We are usually not aware of the continuous and automatic self-talk that goes on in our heads.   By learning how to recognize what is going on, you can alter negative self-talk to positive self-talk.  


For example: You get laid off from work, and you tell yourself, “I have nothing, I can’t pay my bills now.”   Thoughts like this make you feel depressed, and sad.  All of these negative thoughts add up, to become beliefs. Once they are beliefs, your actions will soon follow. 


You can’t get rid of negative thoughts and feelings without replacing them with more effective thoughts and feelings.  The best way to uncover your self-talk is simply to pay attention to your thoughts.


      Many thoughts recognize problems, but give you no solutions.  Here are some common sentence starters that almost always lead to negative self-talk: 


  • “I can’t…”
  • “I don’t know how to…”
  • “I am not smart enough…”
  • “This is too hard for me...”
  • “It can’t be done...”
  • “That is the way it is…”
  • “I wish I could…”
  • “I should but I can’t…” 
  • “I need to…”
  • “I ought to…”
  • “I know I should…”

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